Some might say it’s overrated, but why is sex just so important in a romantic relationship? Here are my top four reasons why sex is so great, why we need it, and why it’s good for us and our relationships. So if you’re looking for excuses to get busy, you’ve come to right place!
1. Sex reduces stress
Sex provides us with an all-important timeout from the pressures of everyday life and studies have shown that, ‘Increasing warm touch among couples has a beneficial influence on multiple stress-sensitive systems.’
Researchers have found that a night of passion with your loved one can flood the brain with feel good chemicals that relax the brain, reduces stress levels and even dull pain.
So next time you’re feeling cranky, tired and stressed out, instead of just rolling over and going to sleep, try to reach out to your partner and share the benefits of a stress-busting session in bed together.
2. Sex helps us to bond
Here comes the science… Bonding behaviours such as kissing, hugging and touching release a hormone called Oxytocin, which is also released during orgasm. Oxytocin relaxes our natural defensive systems by soothing a part of the brain called the amygdala, which controls our stress responses.
The comforting feelings produced by Oxytocin help us to feel close to our partners and deepen our bonds with them, keeping us feeling safe, close and connected.
In a study on a group of men who were given either a dose of Oxytocin or a placebo, researchers found that Oxytocin released made it easier for men to act in a positive and loving way towards their sexual partners.
Feeling safe and trusting our partner is so important in maintaining a strong relationship and it’s been found that the more frequent and dependable the flow of Oxytocin produced, as a result of regular physical contact, the easier it is to sustain a relationship.
If you’re flooded with Oxytocin your defensiveness will be down and you will feel much more connected and loving towards each other.
3. Sex is unique to your relationship
A Sex Therapists will tell you that sex is the one thing that is special and unique to a couple relationship that you don’t experience with anyone else.
It allows you to share a level of closeness, vulnerability and intimacy that help you bond and connect in a way that you don’t do in any other relationship in your life. This is the part of your relationship that is exclusively yours and no one else’s.
4. Sex is good for your health
There have been many studies proving that regular sex can boost your immune system, lower your blood pressure, improve cardiovascular fitness and reduce the risk of heart attack.
Having more sex can even be good for your libido, so the more you have, the more you’ll enjoy it!
Remember: Sex is more than just intercourse
Finally, don’t limit yourself by thinking about sex as just the physical act of intercourse; sex is so much more than that and can be anything you imagine.
Stroking, touching, kissing, caressing, cuddling, holding hands or any way that you physically comfort and offer each other pleasure can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life. So get exploring!